Once again, our research on child marriage has been published in a peer-reviewed journal — as we continue to push the United States to acknowledge and eliminate its child marriage problem.
Our article in Child Abuse & Neglect, co-authored with Prof. Alissa Koski and Kaya Van Roost of McGill University, shows that child marriage remains legal and happening at an alarming rate in most of the U.S. Like in other countries, child marriage here reflects a devaluation of girls.
Please help us raise $100k by the end of 2023 to help end child marriage in all 50 U.S. states. Because we know you agree with us that girls matter.
As Unchained’s facility dog and chief cuddle officer, I have found — to my chagrin — that it takes more than short walks and long naps to support survivors of forced marriage.
For instance, did you know court filing fees for a survivor to seek a divorce can cost $250? Or that a week’s worth of groceries (including, I hope, liverwurst) for a survivor who has fled a forced marriage can cost $50?
So I am begging you: Please help us raise $100k in the last 50 days of 2023, so we can continue supporting survivors in 50 U.S. states.
Every dollar you give, up to $75,000, will be matched by a generous donor — and by a belly rub for me. Note that I deserve a LOT of belly rubs.
This year, with you as our partner, we helped to end child marriage in three U.S. states — Vermont, Connecticut and Michigan — the first time we won that many legislative victories in one year.
That means we are now 10 down, 40 to go, as we continue to lead the national movement to end child marriage in the U.S. We have come through for the 7.5 million girls who live in those 10 states, but tens of millions more girls are waiting for us.
We already are gearing up for multiple legislative battles in 2024. In fact, we plan to stage a Chain-In protest in Olympia in January, in bridal gowns and chains, to convince Washington legislators that girls matter.
Please help us raise $100k in the last 50 days of 2023, so we can win this important battle for girls in all 50 U.S. states.
A generous donor will match every dollar you give, up to $75,000.
NOTE: Due to inclement weather, this Chain-In will instead be a “Silent Chain-In” inside the rotunda of the Legislative Building instead of on the outside steps.
Child marriage is an urgent problem in Washington. Dangerous legal loopholes allow parents to enter a child of ANY AGE into marriage without any input required from the child, and without any real legal recourse for a child who does not want to marry.
Some 5,048 minors as young as 13 were entered into marriage in Washington between 2000 and 2021. More than 80% were girls wed to adult men, and between 38 and 51 marriages occurred with a spousal age difference that met the definition of a sex crime.
Furthermore, child marriage creates a nightmarish legal trap that destroys nearly every aspect of an American girl’s life. There’s a reason the U.S. State Department has called marriage before 18 a “human rights abuse.”
This calls for a protest.
We will Chain-In in Olympia on January 18. We will wear bridal gowns and chains to urge legislators to pass SB5695/HB1455, the simple, commonsense bill that would end child marriage in Washington.
Speakers include:
We also will sing and chant against forced and child marriage, including a rendition of The Girls You Have Destroyed, a chilling poem/song we wrote about child marriage in the United States.
Chain-In Olympia
January 18 | 12:00 p.m.
North Steps of the Washington State Capitol
416 Sid Snyder Ave. SW, Olympia, WA 98504
Child Marriage in the United States
We at Unchained started and now lead a growing national movement to end child marriage in the United States by making the marriage age 18, no exceptions, in all 50 states.
Marriage before 18 can too easily be forced, because minors, even a day before their 18th birthday, have limited legal rights that make resisting or escaping an unwanted marriage nearly impossible. Further, marriage before 18 is a human rights abuse that destroys American girls’ health, education and economic opportunities and greatly increases their risk of experiencing violence.
Join the movement. Chain-In with us to demand an end to this human rights abuse.
Jenn was 16 when her parents forced her to marry her 44-year-old rapist and abuser. When she tried to leave, she lost everything — including custody of her children.
Jenn now partners with us, publicly sharing her painful story to convince legislators and others across the U.S. to ban child marriage.
“I couldn’t imagine doing anything else, no matter how hard,” Jenn said.
Child marriage remains legal in most of the U.S. and continues to happen at an alarming rate — mostly to girls who are married to adult men. With your support and partnerships with survivors like Jenn, we have helped to ban child marriage in 10 U.S. states so far. Only 40 states to go!
Please help us raise $100k in the last 50 days of 2023, so we can continue leading the national movement to end forced and child marriage in all 50 U.S. states.
A generous donor will match every dollar you give, up to $75,000.
Are you a rockstar who’s passionate about ending forced and child marriage in the U.S.? Do you have at least three years of professional experience? Do you have excellent written and oral communication skills? Are you detail oriented and highly organized?
Then you might be our next Advocacy Associate! Learn more and apply now (but only if you want a deeply meaningful, adventure-filled job that makes all your friends jealous).
While we’d love to simply shout, “Alohomora!” and unlock survivors’ metaphorical chains, escaping a forced marriage and rebuilding a life takes a lot more work than just casting a spell.
One of the many ways we support forced and child marriage survivors is by hosting an annual retreat to give our clients and their children a day of fun — and to give survivors a chance to meet, mingle and share their inspiring stories. Our clients are at all different stages in their journeys, and these retreats help them build a network of support with one another. After all, in the words of the late, great Albus Dumbledore, “You need your friends.”
So this year, we took Dumbledore’s advice and headed to Broadway on Sunday to celebrate Halloween early and watch the spellbinding play “Harry Potter and the Cursed Child.” We gathered for a group lunch beforehand, then we headed to the Lyric Theatre to immerse ourselves in the Wizarding World.
Last year, we watched “Aladdin” on Broadway together, and in years past, we’ve taken group day trips to Six Flags theme park.
Please make an unbreakable vow to support our work so we can continue to uplift survivors escaping forced and child marriages and provide powerful experiences for them to encourage and share with each other.
The United States is not on track to keep its promise under the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals to end forced marriage — a harmful practice that is recognized as a form of modern slavery — by year 2030.
Which is why earlier this year we partnered with Columbia University researchers to launch MOVE (Marriage, Orthodoxy and a Vision of Empowerment), a three-year, survivor-co-led, first-of-its-kind project to study and combat forced marriage, forced marital sex and forced parenthood in the U.S.
And which is why we met today with experts, activists, survivors and other allies to share our preliminary study findings from our case study of New York City’s Orthodox Jewish community and seek their input.
Our founder/executive director Fraidy Reiss kicked off the launch event and explained MOVE’s impact and intentions:
“Forced marriage is not a small problem. Little research has been done on forced marriage in the U.S., so the full extent of it remains unknown – but we’re changing that. One of the most effective strategies we at Unchained use to achieve social, policy and legal reform is to conduct groundbreaking research and use the findings to educate and build support among policymakers, faith leaders, service providers, judges, law enforcement personnel, parents and the general public. MOVE is arming grassroots activists inside the community with the data they need to effect change, as it also aims to launch a national conversation about marital, sexual and reproductive self-determination in all American communities.”
Learn more about MOVE and our work to end forced marriage here and see photos from our launch event above.
MOVE is made possible by generous support from New York Community Trust, Valentine Perry Snyder Fund and other donors.
California is clinging to child marriage, despite the world’s promise to end this archaic harmful practice by year 2030 — as our founder/executive director Fraidy Reiss points out in this op-ed article just published in the Sacramento Bee.
California law allows parents to marry off children of any age. More than 8,000 children in California are married each year, giving thousands of get-out-of-jail-free cards to child rapists — since sex with a child under age 18 is a crime in California, unless the perpetrator first marries the child.
Greetings from Lansing, where we just got to watch Gov. Gretchen Whitmer ceremonially sign the legislation to make Michigan the 10th U.S. state where we have helped to end child marriage!
For the first time in history, we have achieved THREE legislative victories in one year — and have now helped to end child marriage in 20 percent of the country. The 7.5 million girls who live in those states can no longer be legally subjected to a human rights abuse and nightmarish legal trap that destroys nearly every aspect of their lives. Only 40 states to go.
You might remember that Gov. Whitmer signed most of the 10-bill package to ban child marriage back in July, but a last-minute procedural snafu held up the rest of the package, so we had to wait until today to celebrate with “Big Gretch.”
Bills to end child marriage died in the legislature during the past three legislative sessions, but we kept fighting. Under the leadership of Sen. Sarah Anthony and Rep. Kara Hope and alongside our allies in the Michigan Coalition to End Child Marriage, we Chained-In at the state capitol, in bridal gowns and chains, to urge legislators to finally take action and end child marriage in Michigan — something we’ve been pushing them to do for six years. We met one-on-one with nearly every Michigan state legislator. We testified at legislative hearings and submitted memos of support, and we recruited our allies to do the same. We compiled in-depth legal research conducted on a pro bono basis by the law firms White & Case and DLA Piper. We launched email campaigns to target state legislators.
And it worked!
Supporters like Roberts Family Foundation, Focus For Health and the Jewish Women’s Foundation of Metropolitan Chicago made our work possible with their generosity. And you made this victory possible, if you took action on our email campaigns, shared our posts on social media or supported us financially.
Until now, dangerous legal loopholes in Michigan allowed parents to enter a child of any age into marriage without any input required from the child, and without any real legal recourse for a child who did not want to marry — and 5,426 children were entered into marriage in Michigan between 2000 and 2021, including 12 children who were not old enough to consent to sex. Some 95% of the children were girls wed to adult men an average of 4.3 years older — often with devastating, lifelong consequences for the girls. There’s a reason the U.S. State Department has called marriage before 18 a “human rights abuse” that destroys almost every aspect of an American girl’s life.
Further, marriage before age 18 creates a nightmarish legal trap: Even the most mature minor faces overwhelming legal and practical barriers if they try to resist or escape a forced marriage.
Michigan has now joined Delaware, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Minnesota, Rhode Island, New York, Massachusetts, Vermont and Connecticut in embracing the simple, commonsense legislative solution we are pushing in all 50 U.S. states: Set the marriage age at 18, without exceptions. Such legislation harms no one, costs nothing and ends a human rights abuse.
We promise to keep pushing to make sure the U.S. keeps its promise under the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals to end forced and child marriage by year 2030.
Your support makes that possible! Please donate now.
The Michigan Coalition to End Child Marriage includes: